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HAPPINESS SOURCES… Family Dynamics

Friends, we know it very well that even small things in life can give immense HAPPINESS!

RESOLVING CONFLICT-

*If you had an altercation with someone, and resolved the issue, made peace with the person…. You feel happy.

*If you had a fight, realized your mistake, apologized, and made up…. You feel happy.

*If you calmly shared your feelings with the person responsible for hurting you, made him/her see your point without making a scene…. You feel happy.

*If you genuinely forgive the person who harmed you, and move on …… You feel happy.

* if you are able to amicably resolve confrontation between two parties…. You feel happy.   

Here, I am sharing a REAL-LIFE INCIDENT that happened recently: –

Two siblings settled in the USA for the past few years, living, independently, one on the east coast, another one on the west coast.

Both are highly qualified professionals, working with reputed firms, holding good positions. Their spouses are well-educated, working women, both of them are sensible, practical, well-mannered girls.

During these Covid times, these boys decided to be together since all of them were working from home and one of them has a little baby girl, so they thought it’s an opportunity to enjoy some family bonding. They hired another apartment in the same building complex so that they could have privacy and yet are together.

All this entailed a lot of effort, expense, and juggling.

For about a month everything was hunky-dory, and then small altercations started taking place over petty issues. Slowly the cracks deepened, so much so that after about three months there was a major showdown between the two brothers.

Parents also came to know about the strained relationships.

Friends, in such scenario parents, prefer to remain neutral, thinking/hoping that since the children are adults now, let them sort out their differences. Parents want to maintain the status quo even when they know and realize that one of them is in the wrong.

PARENTS’ DILEMMA:

1) Should parents be mute spectators?

2) Should they maintain distance and let the siblings fight it out?

3) Should they look out for their own future/ comfort and play one against the other? Mind you many parents do it.

4) Should they just push issues under the carpet, thinking that with time things will get resolved? Well, this is like letting the wound fester.

5) Should parents intervene, try to make the defaulter realize his/her mistake, do the required course correction to bring harmony in relationships?

PARENTS’ ROLE and RESPONSIBILITIES NEVER END; THEY ARE THE GLUE THAT HOLDS THE FAMILY TOGETHER!

IT’S A UNIVERSAL STORY:

In every family, such situations arise, till the issues are resolved everyone remains tense, stressed out, on a short fuse, and angry.

Those few weeks/ months are the worst for everyone involved and everyone around, however, when some solution is reached, all the members feel relieved, peace prevails and slowly things do get back to normal.

This can happen only when egos are shelved, people at fault make amends wholeheartedly, and all the family members try to move ahead as quickly as possible. Nothing is more disastrous than a brocken family!

HAPPINESS IS RESTORED!

Dearies, do share how you sorted out a sticky situation in your family?

Which route did you take 1,2,3,4,5 or something else?

And, don’t say you have never faced any such issue!

Renuka. 

2 comments

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